After finally deciding to commit his life to one woman in marriage... After the "I do's" are said... After the honeymoon is over... And, as married life begins...most men desire to be a nice, pleasant, pleasing, helpful, and accommodating husband.

And unfortunately, for many men, that's when the trouble begins. In fact, it's not unusual for it to be only a matter of a few weeks to a few months until a man begins to think that getting married was a HUGE mistake.

Here's what I want you to realize, there's a right way to be a good husband. And, there's a wrong way to be a good husband.

Let's explore...

Imagine a freshly-married Mr. and Mrs. Jones returning from their honeymoon... He goes back to his evening job (3 pm until 11 pm). And, she goes back to her day job (8 am until 5 pm).

Because he's off during the day, Mrs. Jones "sweetly" asks Mr. Jones if he would mind doing some small chore or errand for her "since he's off during the day."

And, since Mr. Jones wants to be a "good" husband, he happily agrees to do the chore or errand.

But of course, there's a lot that has to be done in the "running" of a home / house / marriage. And so of course, Mrs. Jones just keeps adding one thing after another to Mr. Jones's list of chores and errands.

Before he knows it, Mr. Jones is doing most of the household chores. He's cleaning house, washing dishes, doing the laundry, getting groceries, running all the errands...

And then, Mr. Jones goes to work.

Later, Mrs. Jones comes home from work. And, she's tired from working all day. So, she sits down, watches her soaps that she recorded during the day or watches whatever evening sitcom she happens to like and then she goes to bed.

Afterwards, Mr. Jones returns home from his job - hoping to find Mrs. Jones feeling a bit intimate - only to find that she's sound asleep or "not in the mood" or "too tired" or "I've got to get up early in the morning".

And, before long, no matter what Mr. Jones does, no matter how far he goes out of his way, no matter what sacrifices or how many sacrifices he makes, no matter what help he offers or provides... IT'S NEVER ENOUGH!

And of course, it goes without saying that if anything goes wrong, is forgotten, or gets neglected, then by default it is ALWAYS Mr. Jones's fault.

And the fights begin...

But then, they'll make up and Mrs. Jones asks Mr. Jones for a cat because she just so loves cats and she PROMISES that she'll take care of the cat - it will be HER responsibility...

And again, Mr. Jones wants to be a good husband and even though he doesn't like cats, he agrees to help Mrs. Jones find the "perfect" cat...

$300 later, they've found that "purrr-fect" cat...

And a few days later, Mr. Jones is the only one taking care of the cat...in addition to everything else that he's taking care of.

In wanting to be a "good" husband, Mr. Jones has ALLOWED himself to become responsible for EVERYTHING while Mrs. Jones has got out of being responsible for ANYTHING around the house.

To Mr. Jones, this is a HUGE problem.

To Mrs. Jones, there is NO problem...everything is exactly the way she likes it and wants it.

Sadly, some men spend a life-time living like this...

Men, here is your WAKE-UP CALL - a woman is never attracted to a "push-over" man who responds and reacts to her every whim, request, or demand.

Or, more bluntly, a woman is never interested in sex with a "push-over" man. She's too busy fantasizing about having sex with some strong, masculine man to be interested in having sex with her "weenie" husband.

Now, I'm not suggesting that men shouldn't help out around the house or that men shouldn't do household chores because they should...

In other words, the inverse of this story - where the woman gets saddled with all of the household responsibilities while the man accepts none of them - doesn't work either.

Going back to our story... The fact is, Mr. Jones should do certain chores before he goes to work. And, Mrs. Jones should do certain chores when she get's home after work.

In simple terms, household work must be split up in a way that is fair and equitable. If Mr. Jones wants to be a "good" husband, he should take the conversational lead and establish what is fair and equitable given their circumstances and arrangements.

If he had done this at the very beginning of the marriage, then it's unlikely there would have ever been a problem.

But now... Now that Mrs. Jones expects him to be her "servant", there is a problem...

It's going to take time and calm-confrontation for Mr. Jones to "re-train" her and "re-set" her expectations of what her part in the marriage is.

For example, if Mrs. Jones fails to do her part of the chores when she comes home - those chores they've agreed in conversation that she would do, then Mr. Jones will IMMEDIATELY stop doing any chores or errands that pertain to Mrs. Jones - for sake of example, let's say no longer doing any of her laundry.