We need to acquire a special set of skills in order to make online dating/social networking work for us. Cyber dating and traditional dating are similar but very different experiences. Think of it as being accustomed to shopping at a small town general store then finding yourself in the middle of a mega mall. Before you write the mother of all profiles, it's a good idea to be sure it truly represents your romantic aspirations. Even if you think you're seeking a "serious" relationship, there's no need to go from 0 to 60 in one conversation. Baby steps--and a wait-and-see attitude is best for successful online dating. You may need to tone down your profile and not evoke a sense of urgency like so many of the "serious daters" tend to do. Tips for Newbies: Remember, the hyper effervescent lovebirds on the dating commercials are "just acting!" as the great thespian John Lovett would say. So please don't feel you are short-changing yourself if your idea of romance is not exactly the sappy stuff the dating industry portrays. Casual dating is often a good way to explore your true desires--although initially it may feel a bit awkward for "grown" folks. Meet a range of personalities and then see where this adventure takes you. Even the disappointing dates have their value as half of knowing what you want, is knowing what you don't want. The Ten Commandments 1. I will keep an open mind in my explorations.
2. I will recognize that everyone has an agenda; although often masked.
3. I will allow this friendship to evolve naturally-- and not over share.
4. I will clearly state my relationship goals.
5. I will be sensitive and courteous.
6. I understand that this is an extension of the "real world" ;not Magic Kingdom.
7. I know that most encounters will not be a "Match".
8. I know that online dating can not guarantee a "Match".
9. I know that online dating is a reciprocal process.
10. I will resist serious emotional investment until we meet in the "real world" and stand the test of time. http://savvydater.blogspot.com/ Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=David_Armaan
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