I have a friend who keeps falling in love with "the wrong guys"... At first they all seem great, loving, attentive and caring. But after a short period, they all seem to have "issues" or choose someone else, or sometimes she finds out that they are already attached to someone else. Instead of finding love, she keeps picking the wrong guys. In her mind she pictures a perfect guy and a perfect relationship, instead she finds all the wrong guys and has all the wrong relationships. By the time she figures out they are wrong, it's too late already, because she has become attached to them already. To her relationships are a big struggle where she's the only one contributing, which really defeats the object. When it's over there's a moment of clarity in which she realises what a nightmare it has been, but before long, she's involved in another relationship with a totally different guy, but the eerie feeling soon returns when she realises that the same set of circumstances arise. Are all men just difficult or don't they know how to have a relationship? Why is she so "unlucky in love"? Of course all these guys had issues and were immature, but ultimately she picked them. There must be more to it than her being unlucky. Many women are "getting it" daily and turning their love-lives around and finding true and lasting love. If you've had bad relationships in the past, you may as well admit it, you have acted just like my girlfriend before. You've experienced the same emotions and you can change that right now if you are willing to address your responsibility in this matter and change a few thought processes. It's essential to understand the Balance within a relationship. When you do that things will progress positively and smoothly, without the hassles and insecurity that comes with new relationships. Most women love the natural flow of a relationship, right in the beginning, but sooner or later something happens. Something changes and this is the critical point where the balance shifts. Whether it's because your man starts acting differently or you feel it's time to have "The Talk", that moment which is the initial 'commitment' within a relationship. That feels so great, but somehow, at that exact moment, he goes from having a great time with you to becoming withdrawn and distant. See, when you want to know where the relationship is going, in your mind it's an invitation to keep sharing and connecting, but to a man, it's more like a demand. Men don't want demands, especially when it comes to emotions. When a man is prompted by a woman as to how he feels and where things are headed, because she is worried, a shift in balance takes place. He thinks that you want to convince him to DO more, to GIVE more, because you WANT more... and he starts RESISTING. By Lizette Balsdon
http://www.lizetteknowsbest.co.za Mother, wife, author, educator, NLP practitioner, student and businesswoman... Lizette recently completed her first book "If I could turn back time." Get a free preview at http://www.lulu.com/lizettestoffberg For FREE relationship advice, go to http://www.createrelationshipmagic.blogspot.com Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Lizette_Balsdon
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