Have you ever stopped yourself before you called a woman to follow up with for a date? You've maybe paced around thinking about what you're going to say and built up your 'confidence'?

If you're doing that, you've already given up your true relation power to her. She has the favor. There's almost nothing you can do to change it at that point no matter what other experts tell you.

There's no 'magic words' to save you. The woman will actually know where most men are coming from even though the man might think he's hiding it or that it's not evident; she KNOWS.

We make fun of it in the movies but it really is a problem.

I used to do it too but women know the true relationship -and this is on the phone! Often they would still give me a 'chance' because I had some other things going for me but sometimes they also weren't interested from the get-go because they knew they had the power and favor.

Society tells us one thing but attraction is actually something else. It's especially ironic and makes women's actions seem completely illogical. Don't worry; they ARE living in a paradox and it isn't good for them either.

You essentially have to defy their own logic which so many of them will defend, and just 'BE' that man who keeps his power for himself so that her true, feminine self can override her logic and be attracted to you. That's the way it works and it works the most with men who are the purest examples of alpha male character.

And you've seen desirable women end up with jerks which defies their own logic as well. Well, it's because it's the natural and responsive character within them. The part that was there before their own causally rooted social conditioning.

They will chase the bad boy loser jerks and sleep with them (who are high in natural character) after talking on the phone with a courting 'nice guy' of better means. It's all because of the relational dynamics involved.

A woman's natural character (the part that gets heated up and leads to sex), responds to strong men, not to manchild's who give their power up 'respectfully' to a woman.

Sure, it may synergize with her logic and social expectations but she's not 'attracted' to that manchild or femboy...there's no 'chemistry' because he is low in character and not being the stimulus for her to respond to.

Rarely will that ever lead to sex for that man.

Also, if a man goes down her expectation of a long-term 'relationship' path and it's not what he wants, there is going to be turmoil as well.

She will have more control over sex in that type of scenario because it's based on logical and social expectations instead of an emotional response.

So when it comes to using the phone and setting up the frame of the relationship, what's the best solution?

Keep your power in the first place and don't go down a road that you don't want.

Lead and women will follow. That and sms/text message instead.