We found this posting on the RWG forum from "Smooth Operator", and had to share it. This is an excellent article to look at when looking for a Russian bride, or even just deciding to get into Russian dating.

Rule #7: Do not Be So Gullible

Of course you want to presuppose that the woman you visit has good intentions, but do not be so foolish to assume that right away. As stated earlier, you should always remember that countries of the former Soviet Union are poor societies built on dishonesty, with liars, thieves, gangsters, prostitutes and scammers everywhere. Lying and deception are part of the way of life over there. People over there use whatever means to get money from you, honest or otherwise. Your pocket may be picked at any time, a taxi driver may gouge you for excessive fare, merchants will raise prices when they hear you speak English, and your beloved correspondent may even confess that she has already fallen in love with you. In America we consider such practices heinous, yet many people in the former Soviet Union consider scamming as clever and shrewd.

A declaration of love is the most common and effective means of extracting money from gullible SRM's who are immediately overwhelmed upon meeting professional daters. Men with weak minds and emotions are simple targets because after a lifetime of rejection from ordinary girls in America, they feel they were destined to marry Sexy Olga, who is the light at the end of their dark and pathetically sexless tunnel of life. I would cynically remark that if something seems too good to be true, it probably is. Many SRM's, however, would be more inclined to believe that because deep down they want to. I, on the other hand, wouldn't be so inclined to believe everything she tells me upon first meeting her.

Discerning true intentions is quite elementary. Actions speak louder than words, so the key here is to pay less attention to what she says and more to what she does; over time her actions would reveal her true colors. If she claims at the dinner table to have fallen madly in love with you, yet she drops you off at the hotel at eight o'clock, it would be quite apparent that she is either already married or dating a local boyfriend. Also, check for inconsistencies. Does her words jive with her actions? Sincere women would be consistent throughout, so keep your eyes and ears open and trust your intuition if something isn't right.

Rule #8: Do not Be So Accommodating

Okay, so you meet Sexy Olga for the first time and she looks just as sexy as a Dallas Cowboys cheerleader. You have never had a girlfriend with the likes of her before--and for some SRM's, never had a girlfriend at all--and you feel that you must do everything in your power to keep her. Do everything she asks for and wants. "Yes, dear, whatever you want."

Do not be such a wimp and act like a man, dammit! You are there on your dime and on your power, so you wear the pants in this relationship. Professional daters prey on whipped, obsequious, suicidal and Air Supply muthas so they can go on shopping sprees or Crimean vacations. Of course you want to be a nice guy, but you do not want to be too nice. Being too nice means to care more about others than yourself. Professional daters, gold diggers and Yuri all prey on nice guys. Be nice to yourself first (Rule #1), then be nice to everyone else. When professional daters realize that you have the power to say no even with your face buried in the cleavage of huge knockers, they will move on.

Even in genuine relationships, being so accommodating would evidently mean that you do not value yourself first. In that case, you seriously need to review Rules # 1 and 2. I would give you a failing grade in the School of Smooth, and I would expel you immediately. A woman needs a man's strength, so bear that strength and quit crying on her shoulder. Do you need her to put on your diapers? Do not be such a baby, dude, you need to be strong and remain in the driver's seat. The more you accommodate her, the more powerless you will become, and eventually she will lose interest in you and move on to a real man. The professional dater would move on after she has taken all she could from you.

Rule #9: Do not Propose If You Did Not Have Sex With Her

This is the Snow White scenario. Sexy Olga has the likes of Pamela Anderson and wears very provocative clothing, yet she wants you to believe that she is a virgin and she is saving herself for her wedding night with you. Do not be so stupid. A blind man can see she is lying through her yellow, crooked teeth. A professional dater just wants your money. She does not want to sleep with ugly muthas and would resort to that last if she believes having sex with them will open the floodgates to their hard-earned money.

Use common sense. Why would any man be stupid enough to propose marriage to a woman who does not want to have sex with him? I feel that penetration is absolutely necessary before a marriage proposal. You need to make sure that she means what she says, and not that she is playing games with your head so you can fall for her and give her anything she wants. If a woman says she loves you and wants to marry you, then dammit she needs to act that way! If she claims she has fallen in love with you, put her to the test and invite her to your hotel room or flat and make your move after a succulent dinner with fine wine. If things are going well, go with the flow and get down and dirty! After all, you didn't fly thousands of miles so you can just shake her hand and nothing more. Even if you score with her, you will know if she really digs you by her actions in the bedroom. A woman who is very attracted to you would completely lose her inhibitions and screw your brains out. You will immediately know the way she feels about you in the bedroom when you are alone together.

Of course you do not want to rape her, but if she is insistent that she will not have sex with you until marriage, pay attention to if she plays a money game with you. If you feel that she will give signals leaning toward penetration on conditions like if you buy her jewelry, take her to the mall, buy her an expensive dinner, etc., she is just using you. If you even get to this point, the shame is on you for not detecting this earlier and extending the pay-per-view fairy tale. Quit being a foolish white knight and kick Snow White to the curb, throw garbage on top of her and ride off into the sunset with Gary Cooper.