While with the guys, most men seem to be very outgoing, confident and know what they want. Yet when it comes to women or people they fancy, our ego either erupts through the roof or drops right down all of a sudden and we become too jerky or very shy and unsure what to say.

We normally experience this through fear of rejection, taking a blow to our ego, and this is a common problem with a lot of the male population, all talk and no walk.

So what causes this shyness? Well as I’ve already stated, fear of rejection can get any man worried about asking a girl out. Our pride can not take it, and we’ll probably end up never speaking to her again if we try once and get turned away. Basically we feel a bit silly and don’t want anyone else to see us being silly.

Another cause is we just don’t know what to say to them. A guy is pretty simple to talk to. You can relate to one because you are one, yet when it comes to a woman, they have so many differences between us; physical and emotional, that it makes it hard for us to engage in a conversation.

These are the two main issues I am going to discuss in this article on increasing your dating confidence.

So, first of all, let’s discuss rejection issues. For men, dating is quite a hard task. Over the years dating has changed, but not that much. We are still required to make the first move, so when faced with this responsibility, we know that when we like a woman, we are the ones who have to set it off and get the balls rolling. If we screw up, we might loose her.

So the number one tip when approaching a woman is to simply act natural. Because we’re nervous, most of us over react to try to impress the girl we want. This can make us look like jerks, and this is not what she wants. Females are on average a lot more mature than a man, so one who starts overacting to gain her attention is going to be quickly rejected.

The second tip is to make sure you ask her. Don’t get someone else to do it for you. This may sound a bit silly, but it has happened, and happens quite frequently. Shy men can’t get the courage to even say anything to a woman, so get a friend to either set them up or pop the question. This is literally the opposite of acting all jerkish, and again will not work. Approach her with your own pitch, and she’ll be more likely to say yes.

Now the second issue with men is that they don’t know what to say. We could end up blurting something stupid out such as, “so, what time of the month is it for you??Big mistake. Of course the example I gave is pretty extreme, but it has happened. Women aren’t that different from men, so if you’ve got problems talking to them, again, stop and think. If you’re going to talk about anything talk about something you know and you can hold a discussion, don’t start trying to make up stuff because she’ll see you’re a fake. The bottom line is, if she doesn’t like you for who you are and what you know then it’s not going to work. Move on to the next one, don’t obsess over someone that’s not going to work, however hot she is.

So what have we learned? Well to sum up, don’t try to impress by over exaggerating and at the same time, don’t act all shy. Neither will work in trying to woo the girl of your dreams. The most important fact when trying to become confident in dating is to accept that it’s not always going to work, and if she’s not interested in you being natural, then she’s never going to accept you.